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[SPOILER ALERT] Wedding Ceremony Outline

The Wedding Party

Officiant……………………………………………..…………..……Father Raymond Rafferty

Parents of the Bride……………………………………………………. Kent and Ruth Bauer
Parents of the Groom……………………………………………John and Patricia Thomas
Grandmother of the Bride……………………………………………………….Ruth Boerner
Grandfather of the Groom……………………………………………………..Willis Shannon

Maid of Honor……………………………..Jessica Plowright, Close Friend of the Bride
Bridesmaids………………………………..Catherine Bauer, Sister-in-Law of the Bride
……………………….………………………………………Janice DeRito, Cousin of the Bride
……………………………………………..Victoria Grippo, Long-time Friend of the Bride
………………………………………………Amy Keefe, “Sort of” Sister-in-Law of the Bride
………………………………………………………..Nicole Marx, College Friend of the Bride
……………………………………………………..Karin Thomas, Sister-in-Law of the Groom

Best Man…………………………………………………..Ian Thomas, Brother of the Groom
Groomsmen……………..………………………………..James Bauer, Brother of the Bride
……………………………………………………………….Kristian Bauer, Brother of the Bride
……………………………………….Michael Deichmiller, Childhood friend of the Groom
……………………………………………. Erik Kerkhoven, Childhood Friend of the Groom
…………………………………………….Evan Kerkhoven, Childhood Friend of the Groom
………………………………………………………Andrew Ong, College Friend of the Groom

Organist……………………………………………………………………………………………….Yuri
Vocalist……………………………………………………………………………………………….TBD

Entrance Rite
Processional –  “Trumpet Tune” by Purcell
Entrance of the Bride –  “Bridal Chorus” by Wagner
Opening Prayer (A-4) –  Father Raymond Rafferty

Liturgy of the Word
First Reading, Song of Songs 2:8-10, 14, 16a; 8:6-7a –  TBD (maybe my family)
Responsorial Psalm, “The Goodness of the Lord” Psalm 33:12 and 18, 20-21, 22
Second Reading, 1 Corinthians 12:31-13:8 – TBD (maybe Gavin’s family)
Gospel Acclamation, “Alleluia”  1 John 4:8b , 11 (E-2)
Gospel Reading, Matthew 7:21, 24-25 – Father Raymond Rafferty
Homily

Rite of Marriage
Introductory Address (G-1)
Exchange of Vows (H-2)
Blessing and Exchange of Rings (I-2)
Prayer of the Faithful (J-2) – TBD
Sign of Peace

Concluding Rite
The Lord’s Prayer
Final Blessing (O-2)
Recessional – “Wedding March” by Mendelssohn

“Rite of Initiation (Or Something Like That…)”

As part of the loooooooong journey we’ve both taken to get married in a church – which began at Annunciation (R&D), then went to Corpus Christi (RCIA), hopped over to St. Saviour’s (interview & soon-to-be-wedding) with a brief stint in Good Counsel, UES (Pre-Cana II) and coming up: St. Bartolomeo, Harlem (Pre-Cana I), we are finally entering into the home stretch.

Gavin is about a month away from getting baptized into the church so that we can get married in a church because that is extremely important to me (oddly, I know.) As part of his class, Gavin is also getting confirmed. And because he is getting confirmed, he will be needing a sponsor, or two (that person also gets to be sort of a godparent, as well.)

Enter Jim and Kris… the Godfather(s.) Cue Godfather theme song. Gavin asked BOTH of my brothers to be his sponsors/godparents.

The day began in our new parish church in Harlem at around 11am. Then we headed over to St. Patrick’s Cathedral for a larger ceremony at 2pm that was centered around initiating all of these people – around 750! – into the church. The ceremony was spoken in English, Spanish and Mandarin.

We stopped at Five Guys for some burgers (and a meatless grilled cheese with tomato for me) on the way there. Yum!

We’re kind of a tech-savy group, if I do say so myself. Gavin checked into Five Guys on Foursquare. Kris instagramed Cardinal Dolan (*kind of* a celebrity in the Catholic church.) Jim was texting Katie while we waited for our food and I emailed photos of the flatscreens to Dad (might have been during mass.)

We were all like tiny little ants in this enormous establishment. Even though I wasn’t allowed to sit with the guys, I did manage to snap a picture of the three of them up at the altar after they called Gavin’s name. (Reference circled area in the photo below.)

A few more weeks left to go and then it’ll be the Easter vigil (the night before Easter.) A couple of months after that and we’ll be married.

One Hundred and Twenty

On Saturday morning, Gavin and I went across town to Our Lady of Good Counsel for our first Pre-Cana class (or marriage preparation, as required by the Catholic Church.) We joked on the way over about how it was going to be a handful of other couples. One hundred and twenty people showed up.

The course was taught by a married Catholic couple. There was a book that the lecturer recommended we finish reading before our wedding. We also received worksheets to follow along with throughout the day. Some parts of the day were interesting; others… not so much.

A lot of the focus was on staying together for life and what it means to be married. The questions were positioned to promote reflection on some pretty heavy topics (age, illness, finances, children, etc.)  Although we’d touched upon those topics before – in the nearly four years we’ve been together, a fair amount of the conversation was still very new to both of us.

Despite the fun that a couple can have talking about themselves the whole day, toward the end we both were a little jittery. Gavin and I were both relieved when it was over- if only because that meant we didn’t have to sit in those plastic chairs anymore. The second and final portion of this course is scheduled for the first weekend in March (pre-March Madness, Gavin made sure of this.)